Mommy’s New Groove isn’t a political blog, nor do I plan on ever writing any political rhetoric. This post is about the highly publicized A Day Without a Woman movement, where women would stand in solidarity to display the great value we add to the socio-economic system. Women were encouraged to take the day off from work, wear red and/or not shop, among other ways of showing support. This post is about how I spent that day.
I know many women who decided to not go to work. I know many women who wore red. I know many women who showed their solidarity in various ways. As March 8th approached and I read about women planning on how they were going to spend A Day Without a Woman, I began to ask myself what this meant for me. The answer was clear. It was about my daughter. My 4 year old knows nothing of the sad, crazy and unfortunate happenings of the world. This alone is a privilege even at such a young age, I know. I am the happenings of HER world. I am what she bases most of her opinions, feelings and reactions on. So how was I going to show her the great value of what she can add to our socio-economic system?
On March 8th, I woke up and went about my day as usual.
I did my usual routine of getting her ready for school, cooking her breakfast and singing her favorite Disney songs on our drive to school. She always asks me what I’m going to do while she is at school. “What are you doing today, Mommy? Errands? Writing? Music for Zumba?” she asked as always. I told her that I needed to go back home and clean the house and prep dinner for later in the day. She smiled and said “That’s cool”. (No, not really, I thought.)
After picking my daughter up from school and having lunch and ice cream with her BFF and my MFF, we ran some errands and then I headed to my parents’ house to drop her off so I could go to work.
The fitness studio was packed to the gills. After the warm up, we were already sweating our butts off because of the amount of bodies in the room! It was a great class, high energy and awesome vibes all around. I looked around at the happy faces and noticed there were quite a few new ones in the crowd.
After the hour was done, my newbies came up to me and thanked me for the class.
We took off today for A Day Without A Woman. That’s the only way we were able to make it to this class. Thanks so much! It was awesome! What a great ending to a great day!
I smiled at them with gratitude and thanked them for coming. Comments like these remind me of why I love what I do. After a few more ladies came to thank me for the class, I packed up my stuff. Then I realized something.
What if I didn’t show up to work that night? I didn’t need to go to work. I chose to. If I didn’t show up, then my gym would’ve gotten a slew of nasty comments that there was no class. My regulars as well as the women that took the day off wouldn’t have gotten to take my class because there wouldn’t have been one. Instead, I was able to empower these women, even it was just for a short period of time. They took time to feel good about themselves and I assisted in that. If I didn’t show up, their nights would’ve still been just fine. The world wouldn’t have ended. But that doesn’t take anything away from the value I know I add to their day by doing what I do.
At the end of the day, that is what I want my daughter to know. The actions that we take set off ripples into the world around us. By showing up to my class, I set off positive ripples into the lives of the women who came. I want her to know that we have the strength to make our own choices, take our own stands. We evaluate our responsibilities and understand that people rely on the commitments we make. I know I am valuable, therefore I am.
Maybe when she’s older, there will still be a day to honor A Day Without A Woman. And she can choose to stand however she feels in her heart. I don’t know what that will look like. But what I do know with all the certainty in the universe is that she will never know A Day Without Me. I will always show up for her. Today, tomorrow and even when I’m no longer on this earth. Because my actions will be the foundation for what she decides to do in her future. Her future as the strong woman I know I’m raising.