Just a few short weeks ago I posted about trying to have a welcoming, open minded, non-mom-shaming summer. Just a few short weeks ago I pleaded with moms to “Mom and Let Mom”. To play nice in the sandbox this summer. And now here I am. Upset, disgusted and disappointed in a fellow mom.
It was a hot afternoon in New York City yesterday. The high reached 92. My newly 5 year old daughter and I were having a great day. Picnic under the Brooklyn Bridge, a carousel ride, a stroll through the park and some ice cream eating. It was a wonderful, yet sweaty day! We kept cool in the shade and with plenty of cold water. If we had time, we would’ve gone to the cute spray park. We walked by it and saw a crowd of little ones, some in bathing suits, some in their clothes and some in their undies. I had brought my daughter’s bathing suit just in case, but we didn’t get to use it before catching a ferry back home.
Just like most moms, I get picture happy (well, when I remember to take them!). So as she was walking or playing I would be snapping away. My little one is quite the ham and would be posing along the way.
As I was taking her picture, a young girl, maybe 13-14 years old, stopped and smiled at her. “Oh I love her outfit! Mom, isn’t she so cute?” She pointed my daughter out to her mother. The mother shook her head at me.
Isn’t that a bit inappropriate to dress your child in something so revealing? It’s too sexy in my opinion.
I stared at her in shock. I looked at my daughter. She was wearing a loose, charcoal colored harem pants romper. It was a halter top so the back was open. Revealing? Because her upper back was exposed? No different than any other child walking around in a bathing suit or something to keep her or him cool on a hot day. She had jellies on and was carrying her Abby Cadabby doll. Sexy? It’s not like the kid had on heels and makeup and some slinky dress on! Sadly, I am aware of the fact that some current fashions attempt to sexualize children even at this young age, however, this was a comfortable cotton jumpsuit on a child who was very much just acting her age. There were no vulgar words on the shirt or anything remotely offensive. This woman actually felt the need to point out she didn’t approve of it and shame me?
She’s 5 years old. If you look at a 5 year old and think the word “sexy”, I believe you’re the inappropriate one!
After my response, the mother continued to say blah blah blah “in my opinion” (even commenting on my daughter’s “grown up haircut!”???). Well, I didn’t ask for her opinion! However, in stead of making a scene in front of both her daughter and mine, I took my little one’s hand in mine and walked away. (Although I did have to hear my daughter ask me why “that lady” didn’t like her hair.)
So much for escaping mom shaming this summer! Oh the joys of parenthood!
Now, I am asking for your opinion. Here’s my daughter. Is this inappropriate for a 5 year old to wear to a park in the summer? What are your thoughts?