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Learning to Swim

in Moms, Parenting on 24/07/17

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Most of us vow we will never compare our children to other children.  Yet, on some level, most of us do.  I would sit in some mom circles and hear stories how “so and so’s daughter can’t color in the lines yet….my kid has been doing that since she was blah blah blah“.  I’ve been in various conversations where other parents are questioning whether or not the behavior of their child is strange or on par with other children.

I would say that overall I was pretty good with it.  I never wanted my daughter to feel like she was competing with a peer of hers.  If she was behind on picking something up, I would just tell myself that her time would come and all kids develop at a different rate.  And obviously on the surface, to my daughter, I would be encouraging and comforting if she struggled with something.

With it being in the middle of summer and water activities aplenty, I can’t help but worry about my daughter’s tentative nature around water.  First of all, I am not confident around water.  I never have been.  So my nervousness about my child in the water is suppressed at all times in hopes that this will not influence her in any way.  Second of all, because of my uneasiness around water, I don’t want her to suffer the same fate.  I want her to be able to enjoy swimming and become a confident swimmer.

This summer, my daughter is 5.  She is getting much more comfortable in the water, however, still needs to wear her floaties.  In my own bubble, I see nothing wrong with this.  She’s improved over last year since she will now go into deeper water without needing to be held.  She also puts her face in the water,  something she wasn’t happy to do last year.

However, when you compare my daughter to her friends, most, if not all of them, can swim.  No floaties. Head underwater.  Jumping into the pool.  There I go.  Falling into the comparison zone.  The zone I try my hardest to avoid.  But I can’t help it.  I feel like I’m doing something wrong.  Am I not encouraging her or teaching her hard enough?  Should I be pushing her to do it?  But why?  She’s having fun doing what she’s doing.  Do I sign her up for lessons even after she’s told me she doesn’t want to and shows no interest at all?  At the same time, she needs to learn to swim for her own safety.  My husband, who is a great swimmer, has been teaching her, but we all know it’s somehow different than a stranger doing it.  There are many studies out there stating early lessons are better.  But those kids aren’t my daughter.  Those studies don’t know my child.

Maybe I’m over thinking it. Maybe it’s a case of “her time will come”.  Maybe one day,  when she’s ready, when she’s hit that mark on her very own timeline, she will want to truly learn how to swim.  She will feel comfortable enough to be open to learn.  I just want my daughter to be safe, healthy and happy.  On her terms. And not everyone else’s.  

 

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  1. Rebecca says

    July 26, 2017 at 2:20 pm

    I feel you! I went through the exact same thing last summer! My son wouldn’t even go into the water, he hated it, and I didn’t force him either.. This summer he’s the exact opposite! He would stay a whole day in the sea if he could (though he’s still using his floaties, and that’s ok). Last summer he’d go into panic mode if someone splashed water in his face, but last week he told me to get him goggles so he could go diving xD I personally think it’s something they should do at their own pace, and for your own sanity’s sake, do NOT compare your little girl to other kids! I’ve done it before (when I heard another mom brag how her kid can count up to 100, and my son could only count to 20), but then I thought, you know what? He will learn at his own pace, pushing him too much won’t do any good I believe =)

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    • Mommy's New Groove says

      July 31, 2017 at 3:11 am

      Wow that’s great! Yes I just keep telling myself she will get there when she’s ready!

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  2. Adrienne Lallo says

    August 22, 2017 at 4:00 pm

    I hear you about the comparison monster. I’ll never forget my son’s first Taekwondo class. All the other kids jumped into action while mine sat, found his big toe and slipped it into his tiny mouth. Regarding water, in college, I spent my summers as a water safety instructor for 70 children. Many of the kids had parents who had never had the privilege of learning to swim, and had unconsciously transmitted their fear of water to their offspring. I spent a lot of time helping them understand that they had two balloons (lungs) in their chests, and when filled with air, they would always float. We would practice blowing all the air out, drifting to the bottom of the shallow lake or pool, springing back above the surface to collect more air and blowing it out again. I STRONGLY URGE YOU to remove the floaties. They build a false sense of security. Instead, introduce your daughter to her own special power!

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